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Those Damn Gold Diggers…. July 14, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Cheating, Dating, Dating in NYC, Dating Zen Masters, Love, Love is War, More Money More Problems, Music, Relationships, Strategery, The Case for Abstinence, The Love Equation, The Rebound.
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I’ve written about the overemphasis on money in relationships (Mo Money Mo Problems)…

I’ve brought you TLC’s No Scrubs

I’ve brought you Amy Winehouse’s Fuck Me Pumps

Now, you get a great piece from Biker Boys Blog on golddiggers… (some great comments in the original post as well).

Along with Kanye West’s Golddiggers to boot (listen close the lyrics my friends…listen close to the lyrics…he’s a master).

Both….are so tight.

Even better in the same post…

From Biker Blog….

I ain’t sayin she a gold digga

A lot of my lady friends these days seem to be looking for more serious relationships and the number one criteria on their minds is a guy who can provide “security”. But, at what point does it stop being looking for security, and start becoming plain ol’ fashioned gold diggin’? I can fully understand a girl wanting to marry a guy with ambition or a steady job. I mean, if you’re like one of my friends and plan on having 5 kids right away, then you’re not going to marry an aspiring hand model with no health insurance and a dollar to his name… at least that’s why she told me she couldn’t marry me (but with hands this beautiful who needs her).

However, it gets tricky when money is the sole factor in deciding someone’s eligibility, not taking into account ambition. There’s this girl I used to work with. Just so I don’t bias your view of her, we’ll refer to her as Gold Diggin Diana. Diana was in a steady relationship with her boyfriend since college for more than 6 years at the time, we’ll call him Nice Guy Nelson. Nelson was a stand up guy who loved her and was a great boyfriend in my opinion. He studied film in college and wanted to eventually become a director. But, if you are familiar with the film industry, you know that you can’t just come out of school and be a director. You have to pay your dues first and work your way up there. So like any other aspiring director, he was starting out as some peon for a director of a few shows at FOX. Well Diana suddenly decided that he wouldn’t be able to give her the financial security that she needed and dumped him to go after a 5 year older banker type who was clearly well off. As fate would have it, the banker completely played her and kicked her to the curb. She went back to Nelson, who being the nice guy that he was, took her back without hesitation.

If I was Nelson, I would not have taken her back. Here I am being a supportive boyfriend for over 6 years to this girl, but when I’m struggling and need support, on the grind trying to start my career, she up and leaves me for Bobby the Banker. I mean, I ain’t saying she a gold digga’. But wait, I already did call her Gold Diggin Diana. The moral of the story is this: Ladies, if your man has ambition and a dream, support him even though things may get rough. Other guys may have the money right now, but all that glitters isn’t gold, and good people are hard to find these days. Can I get an amen? (link)


How to Get a Girl Back July 4, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Dating, Flirtation, Love, Love is War, Relationships, Strategery, The Breakup, The Rebound.

Here’s a great seven step program to get your ex-girlfriend back.

I think this is pretty spot on my own advice minus step 6.

I would go easy on the 6 or not do it at all.

If you do steps 1-5 + 7 the right way, they’ll want you back anyways and you won’t have to do any of that horrible wooing stuff…

Happy 4th of July!

– The Love Doctor

How to Get a Girl Back
Okay, so she made a mistake and dumped you. It’s time to get her back. Your ex-girlfriend won’t stay gone for long once she realizes you are the best thing for her. But you need to keep your cool. Here’s how to get a girl back after a breakup:
Difficulty: Moderate

Step One
Play it cool. Act like you are okay with her decision to leave. Don’t behave like a pathetic, blubbering mess of desperation. Be the person she wants to be with.

Step Two
Live your life. When she sees that the grass is greener on your side of the fence, she will want to return to you.

Step Three
Ignore her, but not completely. Don’t answer the phone on the first ring if she calls, and try to seem like you are busy if she suggests meeting. Don’t let on if you are moping around the house for her to love you again.

Step Four
See other people. Jealousy is a powerful emotion. Once she sees you with other girls, she may start feeling territorial.

Step Five
If you run into her at a party, act casual. Smile a lot (but don’t seem smug). Make her laugh. Remind her of the person she used to want to be with. Don’t act like an ex. Act like an old flame she never should have left.

Step Six
Woo her–that is, if the casual act isn’t speeding things along quickly and you’ve already made some headway. If you know she’s a sucker for romance, wait until the time is right and begin showering her with gifts and attention. Be creative, not clingy. Only begin Operation Woo Her Back once you have your foot in the door. Don’t go straight from violent breakup to guitar strumming outside her window.

Step Seven
Maintain contact with your mutual friends. That way, when she asks them, “How is doing?” they’ll be able to say, “Oh, he’s great. We hang out sometimes, and he’s tons of fun. Why did you ever leave him?” (link)

The Breakup: Dealing With the Rebound Guy July 4, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Dating, Dating Zen Masters, Just Damn Funny, Love is War, Relationships, Strategery, Swingers, The Breakup, The Rebound, You Tubes of Love.
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Great scene on how to handle your ex’s rebound guy from “The Breakup.”

Oprah’s Funny Breakup Stories June 24, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Cheating, Dating, Just Damn Funny, Love is War, Relationships, The Rebound, You Tubes of Love.
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The Rebound Guy: The Discovery June 20, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Cheating, Dating, Dating Zen Masters, Love, Love is War, Relationships, Sex, The Breakup, The Rebound, Uncategorized.
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One of my favorite relationship/dating movies is High Fidelity.

The book almost made me fall out of my bed laughing.

The movie is not on the same level, but still pretty funny. Of course, Cussack is also always good.

As a follow up to High Fidelity: The Rebound Guy, here’s The Rebound Guy: The Discovery as portrayed in High Fidelity.

Many of us have lived the moment…and looking back…..well…it’s really just funny as hell.

As Chris Rock says…and I paraphrase… “you know the next guy your girlfriend will date..you’ve invited him into your house…maybe even shared a meal….and he will betray you.”


High Fidelity: The Rebound Guy June 18, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in The Rebound.
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