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Is Monogamy Natural? July 28, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Cheating, Consultation, Dating, Love is War, Marriage, Relationships, Sex, Strategery, The Love Equation, The Proposal.
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A great article from Alternet:

Is Monogamy Natural?

By Anneli Rufus, AlterNet. Posted July 25, 2007.

A lifetime of love versus a quick roll with a stranger. It’s funny how we can have two seemingly opposite urges at the same time.

Why Do Doctors Get to Decide When a Woman Is Old Enough to Have Her ‘Tubes Tied’?
Bonnie Zylbergold

A hot naked chick hit on Joe Quirk at Burning Man. That’s what he calls her: a hot naked chick. He’s married. But his wife wasn’t there.

“I was in the middle of a desert,” he remembers. “Nobody would ever know.”

It’s funny how we can have two seemingly opposite urges at the same time. A lifetime of love. A quick roll with a total stranger.

He said no.

Because he loves his wife. Because he wouldn’t want to ruin his life by losing her. But choices such as the one he made that day on the sand aren’t totally matters of morality. They’re not about cartoon angels and devils sparring on our shoulders.

They’re science talking.

Vaunted in the mainstream media, two new reports from the Pew Research Center report and the National Survey of Families and Households indicate that couples become bored and unhappy sooner than was previously thought: more like three years into their togetherness than seven.

Well, sure, says Quirk, whose book Sperm Are From Men, Eggs Are From Women (Running Press, 2006) details what he calls “the science of relationships.” A three-year itch makes plain biological sense, he says. (keep reading)

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Why…You…Never…Tell…The…Truth… July 26, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Dating, Dating in NYC, Just Damn Funny, Relationships, Safe Sex, Sex, The Case for Abstinence, The Love Equation.
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As a follow up to my post Why You Should Never Ask Them How Many People They’ve Slept With , here’s the forever famous scene in Clerks that makes the case all the better than I ever could.

Lol…enjoy.

Fugees: Could I Get a Date on Friday? July 19, 2007

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and if you’re busy, I wouldn’t mind to get Saturday…

Better Than Sex…The Movie July 16, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Dating, Love, Love is War, Relationships, Sex, The Case Against Abstinence, The Love Equation, The One Night Stand.
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This is really one of the best dating/relationship movies I’ve ever seen. Great to watch with your significant other actually. It reminds us that there really are better things than sex… like sex + something else great at the same time.

Indeed, one of my relationships started off in many ways like the one in this movie.

Well…at least I can say it started really well…

Here’s the trailer….

Those Damn Gold Diggers…. July 14, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Cheating, Dating, Dating in NYC, Dating Zen Masters, Love, Love is War, More Money More Problems, Music, Relationships, Strategery, The Case for Abstinence, The Love Equation, The Rebound.
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I’ve written about the overemphasis on money in relationships (Mo Money Mo Problems)…

I’ve brought you TLC’s No Scrubs

I’ve brought you Amy Winehouse’s Fuck Me Pumps

Now, you get a great piece from Biker Boys Blog on golddiggers… (some great comments in the original post as well).

Along with Kanye West’s Golddiggers to boot (listen close the lyrics my friends…listen close to the lyrics…he’s a master).

Both….are so tight.

Even better in the same post…

From Biker Blog….

I ain’t sayin she a gold digga

A lot of my lady friends these days seem to be looking for more serious relationships and the number one criteria on their minds is a guy who can provide “security”. But, at what point does it stop being looking for security, and start becoming plain ol’ fashioned gold diggin’? I can fully understand a girl wanting to marry a guy with ambition or a steady job. I mean, if you’re like one of my friends and plan on having 5 kids right away, then you’re not going to marry an aspiring hand model with no health insurance and a dollar to his name… at least that’s why she told me she couldn’t marry me (but with hands this beautiful who needs her).

However, it gets tricky when money is the sole factor in deciding someone’s eligibility, not taking into account ambition. There’s this girl I used to work with. Just so I don’t bias your view of her, we’ll refer to her as Gold Diggin Diana. Diana was in a steady relationship with her boyfriend since college for more than 6 years at the time, we’ll call him Nice Guy Nelson. Nelson was a stand up guy who loved her and was a great boyfriend in my opinion. He studied film in college and wanted to eventually become a director. But, if you are familiar with the film industry, you know that you can’t just come out of school and be a director. You have to pay your dues first and work your way up there. So like any other aspiring director, he was starting out as some peon for a director of a few shows at FOX. Well Diana suddenly decided that he wouldn’t be able to give her the financial security that she needed and dumped him to go after a 5 year older banker type who was clearly well off. As fate would have it, the banker completely played her and kicked her to the curb. She went back to Nelson, who being the nice guy that he was, took her back without hesitation.

If I was Nelson, I would not have taken her back. Here I am being a supportive boyfriend for over 6 years to this girl, but when I’m struggling and need support, on the grind trying to start my career, she up and leaves me for Bobby the Banker. I mean, I ain’t saying she a gold digga’. But wait, I already did call her Gold Diggin Diana. The moral of the story is this: Ladies, if your man has ambition and a dream, support him even though things may get rough. Other guys may have the money right now, but all that glitters isn’t gold, and good people are hard to find these days. Can I get an amen? (link)

Seinfeld: The Sexiest Breakup Ever! July 13, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Dating, Dating in NYC, Dating Zen Masters, Just Damn Funny, Relationships, Strategery, The Breakup, The Love Equation.
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Amy Winehouse’s “You Should Be Stronger Than Me” July 11, 2007

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Before I put up Amy Winehouse’s amazing “Fuck Me Pumps” (okay the song is amazing if not the video)

Now in “You Should Be Stronger Than Me” she destroys the guy who seems to be her ex-boyfriend. Listen to the lyrics………. so ill.

Ironically, according to wikipedia she seems to have just married the guy she is singing about.

Public Service Announcement:

If Amy Winehosue gets divorced…which given the lyrics seems likely…never date her unless you plan to never breakup…cause she may leave your ass drunk on the curb and then sing about it on a platinum album.

Listen and laugh…..

No Scrubs July 9, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Love is War, More Money More Problems, Relationships, Strategery, The Case for Abstinence, The Love Equation, You Tubes of Love.
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I’ve written about the phenomenon of female shallowness about looking for men with money…but there’s nothing better than just watching a great video on the issue.

Then again…in fairness…..is it fair to ask women to date a true hardcore scrub?

You be the judge…

Martin Lawrence: Women Are Crazy Deranged Motherfuckas! July 7, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Just Damn Funny, Love is War, Relationships, Strategery, The Love Equation, You Tubes of Love.
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So the men got made fun of in Martin Lawrence: Men Are Crazy Deranged Motherfuckas! , so now its the women’s turn in “Martin Lawrence: Women Are Crazy Deranged Motherfuckas.”

It’ very much worth giving a click and watching…along with the earlier clip on men….some of the funniest stuff I’ve ever seen….

The Last Kiss: What Do You Do When You Have It All…………..But You’re Not Sure It’s Enough? July 3, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Cheating, Flirtation, Love, Love is War, Relationships, Strategery, The Love Equation, You Tubes of Love.
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That is the question posed and answered by “The Last Kiss.”

A really great movie about that “what if” question everybody in a long-term relationship with somebody great…still asks themselves…..sometimes.

Is it good enough…to be my last kiss….ever?