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Angelina Jolie’s Ex-Girlfriend September 5, 2008

Posted by The Love Doctor in Dating, Relationships, The Breakup, You Tubes of Love.
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Yeah maybe you weren’t aware she had one….but here she is…

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My Super Ex-Girlfriend July 21, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Cheating, Dating, Just Damn Funny, Love, Love is War, Movie Review, Relationships, Strategery, The Breakup, The Case for Abstinence.
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This was really a great movie.

I went to it alone and laughed my ass off after the last breakup… and it has worked wonders.

If you’re in the same situation give it a try!

Hilarious…

Seinfeld: The Sexiest Breakup Ever! July 13, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Dating, Dating in NYC, Dating Zen Masters, Just Damn Funny, Relationships, Strategery, The Breakup, The Love Equation.
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How to Get a Girl Back July 4, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Dating, Flirtation, Love, Love is War, Relationships, Strategery, The Breakup, The Rebound.
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Here’s a great seven step program to get your ex-girlfriend back.

I think this is pretty spot on my own advice minus step 6.

I would go easy on the 6 or not do it at all.

If you do steps 1-5 + 7 the right way, they’ll want you back anyways and you won’t have to do any of that horrible wooing stuff…

Happy 4th of July!

– The Love Doctor

How to Get a Girl Back
Introduction
Okay, so she made a mistake and dumped you. It’s time to get her back. Your ex-girlfriend won’t stay gone for long once she realizes you are the best thing for her. But you need to keep your cool. Here’s how to get a girl back after a breakup:
Instructions
Difficulty: Moderate
Steps

Step One
Play it cool. Act like you are okay with her decision to leave. Don’t behave like a pathetic, blubbering mess of desperation. Be the person she wants to be with.

Step Two
Live your life. When she sees that the grass is greener on your side of the fence, she will want to return to you.

Step Three
Ignore her, but not completely. Don’t answer the phone on the first ring if she calls, and try to seem like you are busy if she suggests meeting. Don’t let on if you are moping around the house for her to love you again.

Step Four
See other people. Jealousy is a powerful emotion. Once she sees you with other girls, she may start feeling territorial.

Step Five
If you run into her at a party, act casual. Smile a lot (but don’t seem smug). Make her laugh. Remind her of the person she used to want to be with. Don’t act like an ex. Act like an old flame she never should have left.

Step Six
Woo her–that is, if the casual act isn’t speeding things along quickly and you’ve already made some headway. If you know she’s a sucker for romance, wait until the time is right and begin showering her with gifts and attention. Be creative, not clingy. Only begin Operation Woo Her Back once you have your foot in the door. Don’t go straight from violent breakup to guitar strumming outside her window.

Step Seven
Maintain contact with your mutual friends. That way, when she asks them, “How is doing?” they’ll be able to say, “Oh, he’s great. We hang out sometimes, and he’s tons of fun. Why did you ever leave him?” (link)

The Breakup: Dealing With the Rebound Guy July 4, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Dating, Dating Zen Masters, Just Damn Funny, Love is War, Relationships, Strategery, Swingers, The Breakup, The Rebound, You Tubes of Love.
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Great scene on how to handle your ex’s rebound guy from “The Breakup.”

The Rebound Guy: The Discovery June 20, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Cheating, Dating, Dating Zen Masters, Love, Love is War, Relationships, Sex, The Breakup, The Rebound, Uncategorized.
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One of my favorite relationship/dating movies is High Fidelity.

The book almost made me fall out of my bed laughing.

The movie is not on the same level, but still pretty funny. Of course, Cussack is also always good.

As a follow up to High Fidelity: The Rebound Guy, here’s The Rebound Guy: The Discovery as portrayed in High Fidelity.

Many of us have lived the moment…and looking back…..well…it’s really just funny as hell.

As Chris Rock says…and I paraphrase… “you know the next guy your girlfriend will date..you’ve invited him into your house…maybe even shared a meal….and he will betray you.”

Lol…..

The Breakup: The Male Breakup (Vol. 2) March 18, 2007

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We all have theories on it. It’s probably one of the most commented on and discussed social issues of human kind. Any contribution that I can add will just be a mere drop in the bucket, but it’s drop in a bucket, that can always use some more drops.

We talk about breakups so often, but few people really understand the processes at work.

Men and women breakup differently. Based on rigorous research, interviews, the contents of stolen diary entries, and my own misadventures here’s a quick outline of what (usually) happens when a guy wants to breakup with a girl.

The guy will begin to be less nice and caring towards the girl. He will seem “distant,” start hanging out with the boys more often, and not want to have any “talks.”

He’ll start being more flirtatious with other girls in front of you, may start saying how so and so is cute, or just start blatantly cheating.

He’ll eventually breakup when one of a few things happen:

1) The girl confronts him about his changed mood.

2) He cheats and feels bad, or cheats so many times that he feels bad – or through cheating simply finds somebody “better”.

3) He gets away with being an asshole for so long that he just no longer even takes the girl seriously anymore and just ends the whole damn thing.

Wait, Love Doctor, this seems really similar to what you described in the The Breakup: The Female Breakup. Well it is a little similar, in that in both cases the unhappy party starts to purposefully (or even sometimes unconsciously) shift their behavior to bring the issue to a head.

The primary difference with the female breakup is that the guy changes his behavior to force the issue, but it is also him who actually pulls the plug on the whole thing. The female attempt to breakup means terrorizing the guy enough that she succeeds in getting him to pull the plug out of frustration, but not so that the unhappy girl herself can do it, because she usually can’t.

Another big difference is that although the girl starts being mean towards the guy she wants to get to dump her, she will rarely actually cheat to the point of sleeping with anybody else in doing so. In fact, a lot of the time although she is trying to emotionally terrorize him into pulling the plug, she will want all of his attention and want to hang out with him, because she is still too emotionally attached to let go of that part of the relationship.

What a crazy world we live in.

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The Breakup: The Female Breakup (Vol. 1) March 13, 2007

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We all have theories on it. It’s probably one of the most commented on and discussed social issues of human kind. Any contribution that I can add will just be a mere drop in the bucket, but it’s drop in a bucket, that can always use some more drops.

We talk about breakups so often, but few people really understand the processes at work. This post is an introduction to the first important concept of the break-up: the female breakup.

Men and women breakup differently. Based on rigorous research, interviews, the contents of stolen diary entries, and my own misadventures here’s a quick outline of what (usually) happens when a girl wants to breakup with a guy.

The hard truth is that women find it incredibly hard to breakup with somebody that they’ve been with for any significant period of time. The nostalgia of it all and the emotions involved obviously affect men and women alike, but it actually keeps most women from being able to pull the plug on their own.

When women decide they want to breakup with a guy, they rarely just breakup. This direct approach is too emotionally difficult, too cold, too unfeeling, too heart wrenching.

Women can’t pull the plug, so what they do is try to convince the guy that he wants to.

How do they convince a guy that he wants to breakup with them when he’s actually perfectly happy: terrorism.

That’s right. The woman will begin to terrorize her (do things he’s told her that he hates hates, become super flirtatious with other guys, stop sleeping with him often, starts fights about nothing, bring up old issues etc. etc.) until she pushes him to the breaking point where he is so tired of her terrorism that he actually does want to breakup, and ultimately does just that.

Because the guy actually broke up the woman is relieved of all the emotional guilt and feeling of responsibility that accompanies pulling the plug…. Because…after all, it was him that “gave up” on the relationship first.

And yet, this man only broke up because his girlfriend started implementing a whole host of things (often unconsciously) to push him away and make him get so annoyed that he pulled the plug for her.

Moreover, by taking this approach, at least as towards the outside world, the woman gets to receive all the sympathy accompanied with being the one who is “dumped,” which in turn, gives her more leeway/moral cover to quickly start dating somebody else………………. a person incidentally, that she had scouted out and lined up months before the breakup (the subject of volume 2).

The Non-Mythology of Recovery Time February 26, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Dating, Relationships, The Breakup.
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The saying goes that it takes half the time you were in a relationship to really get back to full strength.

As we all know getting dumped can really set your feeling of sexiness, let alone your confidence, back about a century or two.

I was dumped by the girl I dated for two years sometime between February 17th of last year and somewhere near March 10th.

Still not clear… lol.

And it’s pretty crazy but I find myself just at this exact moment finding a girl that I might really be into for the first time. It’s pretty much right on schedule.

Perhaps, by simply unnecessarily buying into this myth I kept myself from really considering anybody seriously until a year had passed…but I don’t think so.

Of course, I’ve dated other people. I started hooking up shortly after I was dropped….whenever that actually happened. However, I wasn’t really satisfied in the sense that it didn’t really get to the point where I could say I’m really ready to date this person…anytime in the next decade.

Only after the year, half the time I was in a relationship did I really let down the barriers to say…hey I actually might…possibly consider…at some point….liking this chick…..n shit.

I think that it’s not a hard rule, but more sort of a sliding scale. So if you’re under a year it’s not 50% of the time but more like 30% recovery time. The shorter the relationship was it might even go to zero recovery time needed – i.e. in the case of a 1 month relationship, 10 days not even needed.

Same thing but worse for the over two year crowd. I think that the longer the relationship was past two years the 50% standard actually goes up a good deal. So for example a four year relationship might be pushing 60% recovery time, and end up costing you 29 months instead of 24 at 50%. This point isn’t to say you won’t date or even be in a relationship during this recovery time, but it does mean that you’re not totally over the other person.

They are still your point of reference for your dating or relationship style.

So many percentages…. So much recovery time…. So few years in our prime!