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Dave Chapelle: The Love Contract July 30, 2007

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Why…You…Never…Tell…The…Truth… July 26, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Dating, Dating in NYC, Just Damn Funny, Relationships, Safe Sex, Sex, The Case for Abstinence, The Love Equation.
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As a follow up to my post Why You Should Never Ask Them How Many People They’ve Slept With , here’s the forever famous scene in Clerks that makes the case all the better than I ever could.

Lol…enjoy.

Family Guy: Be A Man Damn You! July 10, 2007

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Turn Off Your Damn Cell Phones! July 8, 2007

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Should I Sleep With Him on The First Date? – Another View April 15, 2007

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Here’s another view on when to sleep with him/her.

WHEN TO SLEEP TOGETHER

When to sleep with someone for the first time is a touchy issue. For everyone person who tells you to wait, there will be someone else with a story about how they jumped into bed with their partner the first night and are now living happily ever after together.

Then there are things such as religion, culture, personal standards and OPA (Other Peoples’ Advice) to take into account.

All this can get so confusing that when you actually meet someone you want to sleep with, the pleasure of first time sex can get lost in all that muddle of thinking, debating and worrying. To add to the complication, what if it’s your first time ever? What if you’re a virgin? (keep reading)

Wrapped in Subway Logos, Free City Condom Is a Hit April 9, 2007

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New York Times:

Wrapped in Subway Logos, Free City Condom Is a Hit

Seductive forces abound in New York City: music, bars, food, money, power. And the No. 1 train, of course, though some people think the D train is really hot.

Subways and sex? Apparently so.

In just a month, the city gave away five million of its new subway-themed condoms, officials said yesterday. Lest you read past that number unimpressed, consider that that was about two condoms for every man living in the city — more than the city distributed in all of 2003.

This condom was the first designed just for the city, in a wrapper with lettering mimicking the logos of subway lines. First released on Valentine’s Day, the new condom exceeded all expectations, with five million sent out by mid-March.

“I think the key thing is this branding effort,” said Adam Karpati, the assistant city health commissioner in charge of H.I.V. and AIDS programs. “It’s our own brand, it’s a New York City-specific thing, and people really respond.” (keep reading)

The Case Against Abstinence April 5, 2007

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My last post “The Case for Abstinence” laid out the strong rationale for taking up an abstinence policy. Here’s the other side of the issue. I obviously don’t engage in abstinence, or I wouldn’t have that much to write about, so what’s the case against it?

1) Sex is obviously fun and feels good. Few things are more fun or feel better fun. That’s not deep, but it’s a pretty good reason. The deeper version of this point that we are all genetically structured to seek out sex to reproduce. How can we fight our own genes?

2) The risk of transmission through unprotected heterosexual intercourse is much lower than most of the public is aware. If a man has unprotected sex without a condoms with an HIV/AIDS infected woman, the risk of transmission is around five percent or less each time. Of course, with a condom the risk is infinitely lower than without, so there’s even less risk if the condom is used properly. The public relations AIDS/HIV campaign has rightfully underplayed this point to encourage responsible sex practices, but that’s the reality, and I’m blowing up their spot. Sorry. (I can’t link to anything because as I said this is not publicly emphasized, but I’ve asked various doctors this question)

3) The risk of transmission for a woman who has unprotected sex with a man with HIV/AIDS is slightly higher but much less so than most probably assumed, but is around ten percent or lower for each time. Again, this has been underplayed by public health authorities, but you have the right to now the truth, but you have a right to know the truth. (I can’t link to anything because as I said this is not publicly emphasized, but I’ve asked various doctors this question)

4) Currently, 95% of all infections occur in developing countries and continents, the major brunt of the epidemic being seen in sub-Saharan Africa and South East.

5) If you are circumcised, as I think most American men are, you’re twice as protected from contracting the disease.

So, if you swore off sex because of my previous post (which I hope you didn’t), here’s your ticket back into the sex club.

The Case for Abstinence April 3, 2007

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Every once and awhile I get freaked out about all the STD’s out there and consider abstinence. If you look at the numbers, it’s a decently strong case that will give you pause.

Just focusing on New York, here’s a summary of the AIDS situation here.

New York has long been known as the center of the domestic AIDS crisis. The AIDS rate in New York State remains at about double the national rate for men and triple the national rate for women. There are 90,298 city residents known to be living with AIDS, and up to 45,000 more who don’t know that they’re infected. In the quarter century since the AIDS epidemnic began, the city has suffered 16 percent of the national death toll, with over 85,000 AIDS casualties to date.

Maybe these numbers don’t sound that bad to you, but why risk dying or getting other weird STD’s when you don’t have to at all…. if you embrace abstinence?