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Is Monogamy Natural? July 28, 2007

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A great article from Alternet:

Is Monogamy Natural?

By Anneli Rufus, AlterNet. Posted July 25, 2007.

A lifetime of love versus a quick roll with a stranger. It’s funny how we can have two seemingly opposite urges at the same time.

Why Do Doctors Get to Decide When a Woman Is Old Enough to Have Her ‘Tubes Tied’?
Bonnie Zylbergold

A hot naked chick hit on Joe Quirk at Burning Man. That’s what he calls her: a hot naked chick. He’s married. But his wife wasn’t there.

“I was in the middle of a desert,” he remembers. “Nobody would ever know.”

It’s funny how we can have two seemingly opposite urges at the same time. A lifetime of love. A quick roll with a total stranger.

He said no.

Because he loves his wife. Because he wouldn’t want to ruin his life by losing her. But choices such as the one he made that day on the sand aren’t totally matters of morality. They’re not about cartoon angels and devils sparring on our shoulders.

They’re science talking.

Vaunted in the mainstream media, two new reports from the Pew Research Center report and the National Survey of Families and Households indicate that couples become bored and unhappy sooner than was previously thought: more like three years into their togetherness than seven.

Well, sure, says Quirk, whose book Sperm Are From Men, Eggs Are From Women (Running Press, 2006) details what he calls “the science of relationships.” A three-year itch makes plain biological sense, he says. (keep reading)

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The Cosby Show: Marriage is a Give and Take July 17, 2007

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Man… I hope one day I have a wife like this…here’s hoping…

Family Guy: Be A Man Damn You! July 10, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Cheating, Just Damn Funny, Love is War, Marriage, Safe Sex, Sex, The Case for Abstinence.
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Chris Rock’s Excuses Women Give Not to Have Sex With You June 30, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Dating, Dating Zen Masters, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Sex, The Case Against Abstinence, The Case for Abstinence, You Tubes of Love.
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Chris Rock’s “I Think I Love My Wife” June 26, 2007

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Upcoming movie from a dating/relationships expert, comedian, and icon.

From Chris Rock himself…

I’m Tired of Thinking About Relationships…Let’s Get Married June 25, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Dating Zen Masters, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Strategery, The Proposal, Uncategorized, You Tubes of Love.
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John Cussack in High Fidelity becomes the dating Zen Master and explains it all.

What is the Perfect Age to Get Married? June 16, 2007

Posted by The Love Doctor in Dating, Dating in NYC, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Strategery, The Love Equation.
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I used to have a grand theory about this question. Of course, one’s first question might be why would we designate an age?

You may be saying “Love Doctor you should know true love doesn’t wait or rush.” Indeed, I couldn’t agree more.

However, there’s nothing wrong with setting a goal, or better put, a guidepost.

The inherent problem of the “marrying age” is that when one begins running up against the mid-thirties they risk landing in the zone of potentially “settling.” Those people you always wondered if you would end up with..you didn’t because they already got married…. and the pickings are just really slim. They just settle down with whoever is around just because that’s all who is left unmarried . NYC has a rich tradition of mid-thirties bachelors, but it’s unique, and only so many people can rock that lifestyle.

So let’s assume that one wants to be married by the tender age of 30. Women can still have many children, and it’s not so old that people begin to settle for less and not so young that they feel they’re giving up some great part of their life by getting married “too early.”

So assuming that 30 is our D-Day let’s work backwards to see when we should hope to have met our future wife/husband to be.

Although some people are all about the shotgun we fell in love and got married in three months deal, the Love Doctor rejects that approach to marriage. Sure it works for some, but you simply don’t know somebody after just a few months…they could be a psycho killer or even an assassin (a la Mr. & Mrs. Smith) for all you know.

So let’s give it an engagement period of one healthy year.

In addition to that let’s add a healthy year of solid dating before the engagement.

Of course, before the year of solid dating we’ve got to add that period of time of sort of kind of dating and the initial time period of meeting the person and getting to the romantic point (or crossing out of the friend zone with a friend), so let’s add on another year.

All of which means that with 30 as our D-Day, by the age of 27 we need to at least know, have as a friend, or be sort of kind of dating the person that we’re going to marry (I think that I’m behind).

Then again 40 is the new 30….so we may have an extra ten years.

– The Love Doctor

How Soon Should I Date After My Divorce? June 15, 2007

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This is about the worst advice I have ever heard…but it’s the first youtube advice for divorced people I’ve seen…… so…..yeah…ahh……listen in……………….just in case.

Why Women Cheat v. Why Men Cheat June 10, 2007

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Everything you ever wanted to know…

INFIDELITY II Why Women Cheat
Ebony, Dec, 1998 by Lynn Norment

They do it for love. They do it for sex. They do it to feel beautiful and boost their self-esteem. No, we’re not talking about why women get married, but why women cheat on the men they have married.

Female infidelity is not a new phenomenon, but it is a fact of life that many people, including women, don’t want to acknowledge. While the cheating man has long been the subject of boasts, jokes, novels and movies, the unfaithful woman is now getting more attention and scrutiny. And justifiably so. Whereas decades ago, the unfaithful wife was a rarity, an abnormality, today’s missus is more likely to cheat than her predecessors.

The first reliable estimate concerning infidelity was made in 1953 by renowned sex researcher Alfred Kinsey, who in his landmark study found that 50 percent of husbands and 26 percent of wives surveyed had cheated by age 40. However, in recent years, women have been catching up to men. A 1997 Ball State University study suggests that young women, those under age 40, are just as likely to commit adultery as men their age. Among older couples, the stereotype of men being more likely to stray holds true.

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Chris Rock: Your Looks April 24, 2007

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