Why Do Some Women Date Broke Ass Dudes? March 27, 2007Posted by The Love Doctor in Dating, More Money More Problems, Relationships.
It’s really an amazing phenomenon. So many women have told me stories about how they would date men who have no money.
I don’t mean no money like not taking them to nice restaurants, I’m talking no money like can you pay for our pizzas tonight. No money like…really I don’t have any money… for anything.
Why would they do it?
It’s the power of control. If your boy is broke, he’s not going anywhere.
He may be cheating, he may be an asshole, he may be unsexy, but he’s yours, and that dude ain’t breaking up with you……….ever.
In addition, aside from ensuring that he will always be around, it obviously infiltrates the ongoing nature of the relationship.
The power dynamic in that relationship is undeniably shifted towards the woman. Decisions, interactions, and conversations all take place under the cloud of financial dependence. It’s an unspoken undertone of all that goes on.
Moreover, women who date one guy like this, often have dated many guys. Indeed, for a period of their lives they have often only dated guys with no money.
I think one possible explanation is that in a lot of cases these women have seen their mothers struggle with men for power in their lives and their daughters therefore seek to preemptively control men. Another is that some of their mothers are very bitter towards men (in many cases rightfully so) and infuse in their daughters a very un-trusting view of men that pushes them to attempt to preemptively control them.
Of course, I’m all for shifting the power dynamic towards women in society and in relationships, but I don’t think that this is the best way.
Indeed, I don’t think that many relationships like this end well…for probably obvious reasons.