Does Money Matter? March 22, 2007
Posted by The Love Doctor in Dating, More Money More Problems, Strategery.trackback
Of course it does. Money matters in all aspects of our lives. We would probably be different people and act in different ways if we had more or less money. It’s sad but true that it also affects the words of relationships and love.
You could meet a great guy, but if he always has money problems, or can never take you out to places that you like, it affects the relationship.
Similarly, you could already like a guy, and the fact that he can randomly treat you to a weekend trip to France or the Bahamas makes it easier to like him even more.
Money helps smooth over rough stops in this way. If things aren’t as sexy as they used to be, you just go on a trip somewhere, have a night in a hotel, or you get a great gift.
This dynamic doesn’t just affect materialistic people, it affects us all.
At the same time money can’t make a feeling that isn’t already there occur. Money can’t make you actually like somebody (although it can make you like their money), but it can interrupt and distort your feelings for somebody that you already like.
A lawyer friend of mine used to always said there’s a famous phrase for the LSAT about being necessary v. sufficient.
That’s the dynamic with money mattering in relationships.
Money is necessary to find true happiness, but it is not sufficient.
Money can’t buy love, but still, if you don’t have money, you’re screwed, and if you do…..well you’ve got a much better shot at happiness.
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