How Do You Juggle Two People At Once? March 20, 2007
Posted by The Love Doctor in Dating, Strategery.trackback
It’s hard work. Juggling two (or even more) dating options at once can sometimes be more stress or trouble than it’s worth. Of course, it’s great to have multiple options, and it’s always a boost to your ego, let alone your sex life. However, having to make sure that they never interact, or having to explain to one of them why you’re busy sometimes on weekends can be a little exhausting.
The best guy I ever saw at juggling multiple women was managing about five at one time. He had his main girl who lived in a different part of the country, and four local girls.
How the hell did he do it you ask?
It’s pretty ingenious.
The way to pull it off is to generally juggle the non-primary girls, and then whenever your main squeeze comes to town you blowup and get into a fight about some random thing with each of the other girls.
You weren’t really mad, but the girls don’t know that, and it gives you a cover for not calling them or returning your calls for a good week or two.
Sure in that week or two you risk them finding some other guy, but that’s the life of a juggler, and the important thing is that your main squeeze will have little to no chance of having them randomly stop by.
This guys was “lucky” in that his main squeeze was not living in the same city, but this principle can be applied to purely intra-city juggling. You generally juggle and when you need to intensively spend time with one of the options, you create some fake blowup with the others.
To be clear, the Love Doctor definitely does not prescribe or recommend this hectic life style, but I’m just here to help you do what you want to do, and this is how you do it.
disclaimer: if you are going to juggle multiple (suitors or starlets) you should still not be twirking more than one for your own health and peace of mind.
why juggle?
usually because there is something that one candidate brings to the table that the other lacks… intellect, money, sexual prowess, sense of humor or even proximity are potential factors
how to juggle?
the direct approach is to tell everyone that you have “friends” or something of that ilk. the indirect approach means dating people in different towns, often keeping your phone on silent or turning it off, sending txt msgs while with A so B feels comforted, being genereally mysterious and vague about plans and inventing fake vacations or visits to out of town relatives to cover one’s whereabouts.
im a little rusty because my juggling heyday was in college but im happy to exztract and offer any strategery from this creaky old brain.
the irony is that in the blog about getting a man to commit, lovedoc mentioned how sometimes the threat of other suitors will spur a man to lock a girl down. i found that to be true in my juggling days. sometimes people like a challenge a guess.
really when it comes to juggling honesyt is the best policy not trickery.
Doc — I love this blog!
You always have interesting posts.
Yes, I wonder why women end up with men who have no future. I have wanted to know how to get “the girl” back (normally it turns out to be a good thing that she left in the first place).
And…I have juggled three women at one time — in college and later in adult life. I have found that the excitement of it wears off quickly, and I spend all my time “covering my tracks.”
But it does make for some good stories!
As for the criticism you get — please everyone remember that this is one person’s opinions. Don’t be so hard on him.
ya im 17 and im doing the same thing….i was dating this girl who went away on a trip, and then i hooked up with this one girl at a movie…they go to different high schools so i think im set….but this is my first time ever doing this so if anyone has any advice please leave it. thanks.
Yeah the biggest piece of advice you could possibly receive is be honest about it, Brandon. This will be the key in keeping your car, job, friends, penis, and overall health and happiness safe and secure. Oh yeah, and your conscience. Forget this “main squeeze and the others” bull, and the over the top lies and trickery. The last thing you need is to hate yourself for hurting somebody or have some crazy woman trying to ruin your life, so don’t have “the talk” or the “L word” unless you’re ready to stop dating other people. Some women think having sex is the same as the talk so make it clear that you’re not exclusive yet – a lie of omission is still a lie. For instance I make sure women I date know I take the “relationship” thing very seriously and very slow – 3 months of dating before I consider it. And there you have it, case closed, when they give up the booty they still have no reason to think they need to know where I am Friday night.
Since you’re in high school this will undoubtedly cause more problems, but it’s still possible. Especially if you think of it less in terms of juggling and trickery, and more in terms of an honest single guy who still gets ass. Hopefully you have not taken to the conversations that mean commitment yet, or called one of them your girlfriend – “dating this girl” is the way to go. Oh yeah, and always wrap it; aside from it being smart, it makes this a lot easier with girls who are smart enough to only continue being one of your flames after they hear “I always use one. Always.”
Dan, 25
There is some great advice here on how to juggle multiple men but I think it would apply to both men and women really. It even tells you what to say and how to schedule them in.
http://veritablevixen.blogspot.com/
I am new to “Town”. And I am “juggling” 5 guys. Just spefically bonding time like movies, chillen, on the phone. But no sex, and 3 out of 5 I have kissed. I am down for whom ever wants to step u and “take me” and “make me their’s”. But for now I am juss having fun and getting to know these guy because yes they do all have different things to bring to the table.