How Do You Juggle Two People At Once? March 20, 2007
Posted by The Love Doctor in Dating, Strategery.trackback
It’s hard work. Juggling two (or even more) dating options at once can sometimes be more stress or trouble than it’s worth. Of course, it’s great to have multiple options, and it’s always a boost to your ego, let alone your sex life. However, having to make sure that they never interact, or having to explain to one of them why you’re busy sometimes on weekends can be a little exhausting.
The best guy I ever saw at juggling multiple women was managing about five at one time. He had his main girl who lived in a different part of the country, and four local girls.
How the hell did he do it you ask?
It’s pretty ingenious.
The way to pull it off is to generally juggle the non-primary girls, and then whenever your main squeeze comes to town you blowup and get into a fight about some random thing with each of the other girls.
You weren’t really mad, but the girls don’t know that, and it gives you a cover for not calling them or returning your calls for a good week or two.
Sure in that week or two you risk them finding some other guy, but that’s the life of a juggler, and the important thing is that your main squeeze will have little to no chance of having them randomly stop by.
This guys was “lucky” in that his main squeeze was not living in the same city, but this principle can be applied to purely intra-city juggling. You generally juggle and when you need to intensively spend time with one of the options, you create some fake blowup with the others.
To be clear, the Love Doctor definitely does not prescribe or recommend this hectic life style, but I’m just here to help you do what you want to do, and this is how you do it.
disclaimer: if you are going to juggle multiple (suitors or starlets) you should still not be twirking more than one for your own health and peace of mind.
why juggle?
usually because there is something that one candidate brings to the table that the other lacks… intellect, money, sexual prowess, sense of humor or even proximity are potential factors
how to juggle?
the direct approach is to tell everyone that you have “friends” or something of that ilk. the indirect approach means dating people in different towns, often keeping your phone on silent or turning it off, sending txt msgs while with A so B feels comforted, being genereally mysterious and vague about plans and inventing fake vacations or visits to out of town relatives to cover one’s whereabouts.
im a little rusty because my juggling heyday was in college but im happy to exztract and offer any strategery from this creaky old brain.
the irony is that in the blog about getting a man to commit, lovedoc mentioned how sometimes the threat of other suitors will spur a man to lock a girl down. i found that to be true in my juggling days. sometimes people like a challenge a guess.
really when it comes to juggling honesyt is the best policy not trickery.
Doc — I love this blog!
You always have interesting posts.
Yes, I wonder why women end up with men who have no future. I have wanted to know how to get “the girl” back (normally it turns out to be a good thing that she left in the first place).
And…I have juggled three women at one time — in college and later in adult life. I have found that the excitement of it wears off quickly, and I spend all my time “covering my tracks.”
But it does make for some good stories!
As for the criticism you get — please everyone remember that this is one person’s opinions. Don’t be so hard on him.
ya im 17 and im doing the same thing….i was dating this girl who went away on a trip, and then i hooked up with this one girl at a movie…they go to different high schools so i think im set….but this is my first time ever doing this so if anyone has any advice please leave it. thanks.